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The wedding preparations were finally over, with every detail executed to perfection. The church ceremony, reception, wedding cake, entourage, photo shoots and video. Having a fullfilling, happy marriage is one of the most challenging tasks we face during our lifetimes. In our busy world, however, many people are so overwhelmed by thier schedules that literally relegate their marriage to last place on their priority list. One certain way to help a marriage disintegrate is to ignore it. Like a tree, if you want it to grow strong and bear healthy fruit you must take care of it. My husband had only one month time preparing our wedding ceremony and the marriage paper. Year 1997, September 12, 2 days after the fiesta in Surigao city, that was my memorable moment happened in my life (our wedding) a successful wedding at all.

I heard one of our guest, said Money Dance? " Hindi na nila kailangan magpasabit ng pera, dahil foreigner naman ang asawa nya!!!. Actually they don't need a money dance, because her husband is foreigner. For me it was embarrassing to have heard what they were saying, but My Husband didn't understand what they were saying. To the people, they don't know whats the meaning of money dance. This all I can say, having a money dance during the wedding reception was adapted from american weddings where female guest pin money on the groom and dance a turn or two with him around the dance floor. The same thing happens with the bride and her male guests. However, I was also informed that this is an old Filipino custom, particularly from in Mindanao, Bisaya I think, and Ilocano weddings. Basically, the main idea is the same which is to give the newlyweds money to help them their new life together.

For very formal, traditional weddings, I strongly advice foregoing the money dance since it really I in congrous with the formality of the occation. This is also true for weddings where the majority of the guest are of an older generation. The money dance would be more appropriate for informal wedding receptions where most of the guests are friends and relatives of the couple willing to play along and enjoy the moment. Actaully, we desided to have money dance just for fun, and also showing my traditional wedding as a Filipina. And I'm so proud of it, my mother in law likes our wedding. Even my mother in law and father in law weren't in our wedding. But they were very exciting when they saw our wedding film.

Tips: Share power: it's very important to keep marriage an adult relationship where the couple shares power.

When one spouse begins to boss, demand or belittle the other, especialy in front of children, the marriage is in trouble. It is also extremely crucial, particularly early on in a marriage, to demand respect from the other person. Yet, many people, especialy those who have trouble with conflict, give in to the tantrums of the other and give away all thier power. Years later when they try to take back power which is difficult to do, so they end the relationship. Prescription: Look for ways to share power and build up the other person, while always demanding respect.

When you notice and reinforce behavior you like you are more likely to see more of it. It's completely ineffective to try to change someone by complaining about the behavior you don't like. It's much effective to catch them doing something good and notice it a lot. Presciption: Notice the good in your partner ten times more the bad.